Drawing Close for Brides
Psalm 6:8b,9 (NAS) A godly application
… for the Lord has heard the voice of my weeping. The Lord has heard my supplication The Lord receives my prayer.
God never commands something of us without providing a way to accomplish His direction. He hears our weeping. He hears our prayers. His ways are not like our ways. His ways are higher and wider because He knows the beginning and the end. He has been touched with everything we could possibly be challenged with, and He is our example in all things. Hence, He tells us we can come BOLDLY to the throne of grace to receive mercy in our time of need (Hebrews 4:15,16).
We have a task to be our man’s helper-mate, a task to complement him in all he does (this complement is to come along side and assist him to do his best). We need to learn early to use our voice. Our voice is not whiny or nagging. Our voice consists of facts, thoughts, ideas, opinions and intuitions. No feelings! Our husband’s don’t generally operate on feels; they think. They like to know how long our talk is going to be. They need to know if they will need to “fix” it right away.
We need to be a student of our man. Watch, look, listen, and research his ways. Be smart! Do our homework. We need to use basic communication skills when we have something to “tell” them. “I have something to say; it will take about 5 minutes. You don’t have to fix it today. Is now a good time?”
As brides, we need to keep ourselves attractive. Men enjoy talking with women who are attractive. The Proverbs 31 woman dressed in royal colors and apparel. Think about how you look when he arrives home. Don’t be afraid of her (that Proverbs 31 woman); she is our example of what we can practice to become. We want to glean from her.
I ask myself:
- Do I look for ways to complement my husband?
- Do I practice good communication skill when I need to use my voice?
- Do I grimace each time I think of the Proverbs 31 woman?
- Or do I strive to become like her?
Marriage is “Joy unspeakable and full of glory.”
God is good! Nahum 1:7